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The thoughtful listener
Having your contribution taken can provoke anger and a second, quieter discomfort about asserting yourself. You may worry that correcting the account will make you appear petty. Recognition matters materially and emotionally; wanting an accurate account is not automatically vanity.
Start with particular examples rather than a judgement about the colleague's character. Make your contributions visible through ordinary updates, shared records and clear ownership of tasks. If a conversation seems appropriate, describe what happened and what you want handled differently.
Sometimes an omission is careless; sometimes it is a pattern. Their response and subsequent behaviour can help you distinguish them. You need not settle their inner motives before protecting your work.
If the pattern continues, consider discussing the evidence with someone who can address it. The aim is not to win a private trial of your worth. It is to establish working arrangements in which the record does not depend on your silence.
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